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Why Are Single Big Black Women Independent?

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Now days, many big black single women are independent and confident. Many black BBW admirers do not know why they are so independent. Especially for some white men who admire black BBW, they do not know the reasons. Here are some reasons may help you solve this question before dating black big women.

Most single black big women have a history of supporting themselves, holding down a job, possibly raising children, attending school, taking care of household bills and helping out with other family responsibilities involving parents, grandparents and siblings.

In many cases they have handled these responsibilities without a strong or consistent male influence in their lives.

Through miscommunication, death, neglect or abuse, many father-daughter, sister-brother, boyfriend-girlfriend relationships have gone astray, oftentimes leaving women to form a support network among themselves in order to get things done, bring order to their lives and accomplish those tasks that were once upon a time more evenly split between the two genders.

This has caused an epidemic of sorts in the single black big singles community.

Black BBW learned that in order to get things done, they had to rely upon themselves and began to do so with increasing success. As a result of this, black women learned that they didn't really 'need' black men the way they thought they did - for companionship, for leadership or for money and support. So, yes, black women are sometimes too independent, but only because they had to be. In order to survive, in order for their children to survive and in order to make their lives work.

Sometimes, single black big women are usually pretty confident, pretty self-assured and pretty sure of who they are - especially once they've reached a certain age. And sometimes yes because I have seen a sister 'go off' on a brother for pretty much no reason at all, just to establish her dominance or control. And I have known many a good man who was being 'dogged' by his woman because he wouldn't stand up to her. But, sometimes no because most single black women are just waiting to meet a man strong enough to deal with them in the entirety of their character.

A man who can admire black big women’ strength while adding his own. A man who is not intimidated by a woman who has just as valid an opinion as his. And this single black woman can and will willingly listen to this man because he values and listens to her.

But it has to be a relationship of equals. Because black big women are often so strong, it can often hinder the development and growth of a good relationship. Just as no man wants someone to tell him how to live his life, neither do most women. Strength plus strength should be a potent combination, but all too often the strength in women and the strength in men becomes a power struggle and then a wedge that drives them apart.

Sometimes, single black big women are capable of 'following' a good man. Keep in mind: Following' does not mean 'blindly obeying in the absence of all common sense. 'Following' means following your husband as the church 'follows' Christ. True marriage between a man and and woman should reflect the love that Christ has for the church. In the bible, a woman is asked to respect and submit to her husband, but a husband is asked to lay down his life for his wife. Most men and women, husbands and wives, do not have that kind of relationship. Most relationships are a reflection of 'what's in it for me?' and when that runs dry, the relationship runs dry as well. A successful relationship can occur between a single black BBW admirer and a single black big woman when true respect and love are founded in a committed relationship leading to marriage.

With a little compromise on both sides, a clear understanding of what a Godly, bible-based relationship is, and with a love that lasts longer than who gets the last word, independence can become interdependence (being independent but dependent on one another and God) and the too-independent black woman will be no more!

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